Letters From a Retired People Pleaser
Are you tired of your good efforts going unnoticed? Do you feel you’re the last a dying breed of Earth angels? Is there a moment you can remember when you did things for those who didn’t reciprocate?
Once I realized the love I thought I was over-extending was actually meant for me to pour inward, it was a game changer.
God, The Universe or who ever you believe in, created you with the gift of love to pour into YOU. If more people took the time to practice healthy self love, the world would be a better place.
The over extending is simply that, over extending. Once you lead by example of being the definition of love, you’ll help people more than you think.
Being a retired people pleaser, I know see how overextending was a one track path of becoming a bitter person. I also realized I was creating a savior complex that wasn’t translating my intent.
It took for me to sit back and ask myself “am I overextending or am I inserting myself into someone life with hopes of them seeing my worth and want me to stay?”
When you read the room, you will see everyone has the inner knowing of saving themselves, who made you so special to think you can take on others’ challenges?
In life, obstacles are there to test your strength. Obstacles are placed there for you to dig deep and see you had the answers the whole time.
While in stressful situations with no one to help me, in hindsight, I see these were moments to rely on my star player. Me. I wanted to be upset people weren’t showing up for me the way I did them but this wasn’t the case.
The best thing you can give yourself is the gift of knowing you will always have you. Not in a hyper independent way, but the piece you grant yourself knowing you can make things happen for you.
Faith is the inner knowing this too shall pass with a greater reward. But, when you’re in the shit, you can’t see that shit. You can naturally think God is picking on you when he’s simply picking you to learn who you are.
Life is a beautiful chaos we are placed in to create our own peace. Take the time to ask yourself “What does that look like to me?” then go out there and get it. What you seek, is looking for you as well.